When "Slice of Life" Dramas Go Wrong
When I first began writing and directing drama at my church, it didn’t take long for me to see the benefit of such ministry. It’s storytelling, and not three point outlines, that prick the hearts of people. By putting a story in front of an audience, you’re much more likely to not only gain their attention, but open them up to the teachings of Christ.
Lately, however, I’ve begun to wonder if we’re doing more harm by the stories we tell than good. A Christian organization recently commissioned me to write a play presenting “real life situations” and how God’s love can overcome them. Specifically, they asked me to present a family in crisis, where the parents are getting a divorce, and the children are suffering from it – one an alcoholic, another with anorexia.
After completing a draft of this play, I sent it out to some friends and trusted readers for comments. What shocked me was the reply from a long time friend who attacked the play’s main character – a teenager girl who runs away from home upon learning of her parents divorce.
“Boo hoo hoo, Mom and Dad are getting a divorce. Suck it up and deal! My parents have been divorced since I was five. It hurt at the time, but I got over it. I DEALT with it! And I didn’t have to run away from home or watch any Oprah to do it!”
Stunned as I was by this response, I was more horrified to see what it revealed in me: a complete and utter lack of understanding of the secular worldview.
I don’t mean to say my friend is a heathen; he’s a Christian, and a faithful friend who has worked with me in drama ministry a number of years. But having experienced one of the things we Christians consider most evil first hand, he does have a perspective that I do not. While we in the church still see marriage as the norm, the world no longer views it in the same light. So the “life crisis” we perceive in divorce comes off as trivial, even juvenile to the worldly person who views divorce as no big deal.
Here’s another example of well-intentioned Christian writing gone wrong. Bruce Carroll recorded a song called “Sometimes Miracles Hide” about a nice young couple who learns their baby-to-be is “not normal.” The couple chooses not to abort, and the song hails them has heroes.
The first time I heard the song, I saw it from Carroll’s eyes. It is heroic to raise a child with a disability. But this past summer I heard the song in concert with a friend whose family had adopted three mentally challenged children.
The song made her FURIOUS.
Once again, a “devastating tragedy” in the eyes of the Christian who has never known any real suffering rings hollow. My friend didn’t see heroism in raising a disabled child. It’s something you do because it’s right, not heroic.
So many times I, like many Christians, perceive myself to be the light in the darkness. It is I who see the world from God’s vantage point because I attend church and read the Bible. But by only taking on the church-side view of the world, I’ve become disabled myself, unable to properly connect with an unbelieving world because the things I find unbelievable are just common place outside the walls of my church.
It’s tempting to seek a solution to this communication gap by simply switching gears. If sex is no longer taboo and divorce no longer shocking, maybe there’s another “hot button” we can press to grab those wicked sinners. I don’t think there’s an easy solution; but there is a better way.
Jesus understood how the secular world perceived itself. He knew how to start a story in their arena, and draw it into his. He knew because he was God; but he also knew because he knew them. Jesus didn’t keep to his church pals and activity nights. He was out in the streets where real people lived. He knew them, therefore, he knew how to reach them.
Maybe that’s what we’re missing. It’s not that we don’t know right and wrong; it’s that we don’t know their right and wrong.
As followers of Christ, we need to leave the safety nets of our small groups and ministry teams to have real friends who don’t attend church, for that is the way Jesus reached the people: one on one.
As writers, we owe it to God to know our audience so that we may communicate in their language. Just like Paul would go into a town and listen to the people a while, we need to put down our pens and listen with our hearts. To do anything else would make us a clanging cymbal, ringing hollow without love.